Our culture has tried to redefine “love” to be nothing more than a feeling, but love is so much more than that. In every healthy relationship, if someone really loves you, they’ll do the following (and you should these for them as well) irrespective of the type of love – kinship, friendship, or a relationship.
This is the “litmus test” of love. If someone truly loves you…
1. They will give to you even when you are in no position to repay.
When you do good for those who can do good for you, that’s not love; that’s networking! Love requires giving to someone with no thought of how it might be repaid. Love can never be repaid. Love can only be freely given and freely received.
2. They will work to heal your old wounds and protect you from new wounds.
If you love someone, you must be the one who wipes away their tears, not the one who causes them! Love promotes healing for the past, peace for the present and protection for the future.
3. They will accept you at your worst while helping you become your best.
If someone really loves you, they won’t try to change you, but they also won’t let you settle for anything less. Real love means being completely committed to someone even when they are being completely unlovable. If someone really loves you, they’ll believe in you even in those moments when you struggle to believe in yourself.
4. They will NEVER give up on you!
Love is rooted in commitment, not convenience. Love is a choice, not a feeling. If someone really loves you, their commitment to you will endure through any circumstances life throws your way.
Here’s love in a nutshell (straight from the source):
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
[c/o D. Willis]