Success – 3 Relationship Principles

“The Three Driving Principles for Relationship Success

1. “Focus on the Relationship”
(Every day do positive things for your relationship)

2. “The Only Person You Can Control is Yourself”
(Our thoughts and actions are our own choice)

3. “Communicate Personal Needs in a Timely Fashion, Without Criticizing or Blaming”
(Always listen to the others needs and strive to create win-win solutions)

Do you have enough energy to be a vibrant partner? To wholeheartedly participate in activities and pursuits with your spouse that bring you closer together and create that loving connection. It could be sport, hiking, walking, biking, tennis, fishing, ten-pin-bowling to name a few.

Do you have a plan to be healthy and stay healthy? My intention is not to add any more burden to those who are already tired and struggling to keep up with the demands of life. I only want to point out that what you eat you has a powerful effect on the body. We invariably reap what our lifestyles have sown.

Most people are hardly aware of what we’re eating or how much or how often. We don’t even know when we are full and will eat until abdominal pain stops us. Remember, all seemingly slight indiscretions in health add up. This sets the stage for future acute and chronic life-threatening disease later in life.

So from today start examining the food you eat. Reduce or eliminate processed foods which contain chemicals and are nutrient deficient and replace them with nutrient rich natural whole foods. Eliminate sugar from your diet, coffee, soft drinks all junk food. This won’t be easy but if you become a conscious eater you can live longer, with less or no disease and have a more energetic approach to life and your relationship.

The doctor of the future will give no medicine but will interest his patients in the care of the human frame, in diet and in the cause and prevention of disease.-Thomas Edison
Start the journey today to optimising your health because you are worth it.”
~ Stephen Solomons


10 Things About the Processed Food Industry

“We’ve been led to believe that processed foods seem like the answer to today’s busy lives. New fads and fancy advertisements make promises that keep us coming back for more. The sad reality is that processed products are everywhere we look, making them increasingly harder to avoid.

Processed foods are also more convenient – that’s what it really comes down to in an ever increasing time poor society. It’s so much easier to bake a cake by opening up a box, pouring out a dry mix, and adding an egg and some oil than starting from scratch. But what is the price we really pay for this seemingly great convenience?

1. Processed Foods Are Addictive and Can Cause You To Overeat
Whole foods are made up of carbohydrates, proteins, fats, fiber and water. When foods are processed the components of these foods are modified (for example, fiber, water and nutrients are removed) and in other cases, components are concentrated. In each case, processing changes the way they are digested and assimilated in your body.

Eating highly processed or highly concentrated foods can artificially stimulate dopamine (the pleasure neurotransmitter), which plays a role in addiction. In this way, you are eating foods that lack nutrients and fiber, but create a pleasurable feeling. A food addiction starts because you feel good when you are eating these foods and they make you think they taste better. You crave that pleasurable feeling again and again and voilà…this is what starts a food addiction.

2. Processed Foods Are Linked to Obesity
Additives in processed foods, like high fructose corn syrup, sugar and MSG have been linked to weight gain and obesity.

Dr. Mercola recently reported about a new study that showed childhood obesity could be reduced by 18 percent, simply by cutting out fast food advertisements during children’s programming. The Australian government is clearly more concerned about their children’s health as television advertisements to children were banned several years ago.

3. Processed Foods Often Contain Ingredients That Do Not Follow The Principle of Food Combining
This can lead to low energy, poor digestion, illness, acidic blood and weight gain. An example would be a frozen meat and cheese pizza. Cheese (a dairy product), meat (an animal protein) and pizza crust (a grain product) make a terrible food combination that can wreak havoc on your digestive health.

4. Processed Foods Contribute to An Imbalanced Inner Ecosystem
This can lead to digestive problems, cravings, illness and disease. Beneficial microflora cannot survive in your digestive tract when you are poisoning them. Like us they thrive on foods that are made by nature not by man.

5. A Diet High in Processed Foods Can Lead to Depression, Memory Issues and Mood Swings
Ingredients in processed foods are often the lowest cost and sub-par, nutritionally. For example, the fats and oils used in processed foods are refined, which means they are stripped of the essential fatty acids necessary for healthy blood sugar levels, moods and memory. Your heart, hormones and brain suffer when you choose to eat these fats and oils. Instead choose organic, unrefined or “virgin” fats and oils.

6. Processed Foods Often Go Hand In Hand With “Eating on the run” or Multitasking
Most people will choose convenience if they are on the run and in today’s busy lives, who of us isn’t? Unfortunately, multitasking while eating causes people to lose touch with their natural appetite, often leading to weight gain. Additionally, multitasking sends the wrong signals to your digestive system, which needs to be in a restful mode to digest properly.

7. Nutrition Labels on Processed Foods Are Often Misleading and Have Harmful Health Effects
Many labels say “sugar free,” but contain other sweeteners like agave, which is like high fructose corn syrup.

Additionally, product labeling may hide ingredients like GM (genetically modified) foods and harmful additives like MSG. (These are hidden behind words on the label like “natural flavorings” or “approved spices”).

8. Diets High in Processed Meats (like hot dogs and deli meats) Have Been Linked to Various Forms of Cancer
One of the reasons for this link to cancer is thought to be because of the preservatives used in processed meats. Clare Hughes, Australian Cancer Council nutrition program manager, says a number of studies have linked processed meat to cancer and the problem is multi-fold. “Processed meats are high in salt and fat. In addition, chemicals such as nitrites are added to many processed meats to maintain their colour and to prevent contamination. Nitrites can be converted in the stomach to carcinogenic nitrosamines.”

9. Eating Too Many Processed Foods Can Lead to Infertility and Malnutrition
Processed foods, like cereal, are stripped of important vitamins and nutrients that your body truly needs. You could be eating a large amount of calories and still be malnourished if your diet is high in processed foods. Animal studies have shown that over three generations, a deficient diet causes reproduction to cease. Today, infertility is on the rise.

10. Processed Foods are Made For Long Shelf-life, Not Long Human Life!
Chemicals, additives and preservatives are added to processed foods so that they will last for a long time without going rancid or affecting the taste of the food. Food manufacturers spend time, money and research on beautiful packaging and strategies to lengthen shelf-life, with little attention on how the foods will lengthen your life or create lasting health.”
~By Donna Gates, Body Ecology

Life Lessons

I know my customers, readers, visitors, and followers are from various backgrounds, ages and walks of life… and although this link is based upon the age of 30, I think it contains some very important points…

Life Lessons

Have a read and let me know your thoughts 🙂


An interesting read…

Parents and Teenagers

How often, even when we were teenagers ourselves, have we felt this way? ‘If only they understood?’. Interesting to think that it might go both ways…

“… Having children is a transitional stage in life that symbolizes the end of the parent’s own childhood. As children make the shift from child to adult, parents face another transition in their own evolution, from young, forward-thinking adults to middle-aged, older individuals. Even though they may feel the same as they did in their 20’s, the life-shifts their teenager and they themselves are going through can stir up their existential awareness and fears. Parents often defend against these realities by tightening their grip on their teenager and influencing him or her in…”

Food for thought


It’s amazing how much we rely on the  electronic medium to get anything and everything done nowadays… frustrating when your emails don’t send… 😦

Just a random note as I wait for it to fix itself.  Lol…



It’s funny how often I hear that ‘friends are an extension of family you didn’t get’… and I’m sure we’ve heard of the terms ‘like sister to me’ and ‘a brother from another mother’… but how often do we take our friends for granted?

Do you proactively say thank you to each and every one of your friends for the impact they have on your life? For all the times they’ve been there when you needed them, and in those times you didn’t think you wanted anyone around?

Though there may be people who let us down (life’s a learning experience), much like the saying “it’s not the quantity but rather the quality of person (s) you have that makes a life grandeaur”… never do I ever wish to not count my blessings.

So here’s a quick message to everyone who’s been here and there, permanent or temporary, for me over the many years I’ve been around:
Thank you.
Thank you for being you. Thank you for opening my eyes. Thank you for allowing me to see, hear, feel, experience, and understand what I might not have before. Thank you for allowing me to grow and change into the person I am daily.
Just Thank You!



Annnd… it’s still buzzing in the J.A.P Cupcakes kitchen 😀

Thank you for your support! 😀 Words can’t begin to express how happy I am 😀

Thank you!


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… is over-rated! 🙂 Lol…

Everyone’s need to catch those elusive ‘Zzzz’s vary greatly. Not soley based upon what you’ve done/consumed throughout the day, but also based on those ‘electric’ pulses that drive and motivate you to do more… with all and whatever hours you are awake… how to best use them… sow seeds whilst the sun shines… or as lastnight’s weather was: as it poured. 😉

No sleep is refreshing and, much like a reserve tank on a motorbike, can run just as well until time to refuel later. 😀